Leadership is not for those that don’t posses thick skin. It is essential that those who lead take the time to learn about those they serve. It is important to be human and find out what makes them tick. How are their families doing? What life struggles do they have, etc.? However, boundaries are essential. In fact, as a leader, if you don’t draw lines, it can be destructive to you and your career. I can speak from personal experience on this. Most people in leadership are compassionate and are genuinely concerned about people and their well-being. It is essential for this to be balanced and for a boss to remember that they are boss and subordinate.
I hired a lady that I dated. She was a single mom with two kids. She was bright and had the potential to move up the ranks quickly. I hired her because I wanted to help her family. THAT was the BIGGEST mistake in my life and my life has been impacted by that decision in every way.
My message for the day is to keep healthy boundaries. Don’t hire anyone that you had a prior relationship with and surely don’t EVER -and I can not stress this enough – forget they are your subordinate and, despite any prior friendship, you are the boss and need to act like it.
Leadership is an intriguing concept. Some feel leadership is something obtained by a title or a fancy name plate on a door to an executive office. Leadership is none of that nonsense! Leadership is simple to define. To be a leader you need to get others to follow. However, in reality it is not simple at all. A true leader motivates and inspires others to take control of their own destiny. It is not about power or authority. The whole idea that someone is in power is a perception not the reality in life. (Only one true person is in power and that is the man upstairs.) Refer back to my original statement above. It doesn’t matter what title you have on the door or what the organizational chart of your company may illustrate. If you turn around and you don’t see anyone behind you that means you failed. A transformational leader is one that cares about others and provides them the tools to dictate their own future and be held accountable for their own production. Do you know of any leaders like that? Unfortunately, these types of leaders are becoming less and less frequent in organizations. Instead you see many that cling on to Raven and Raven’s model of leadership that focuses on leading by positional power or title. This will never be the leadership style I use. What about you?
I am refreshed to see some of the positive changes in the District School Board of Pasco County over the last several months. A servant leader at the top that allows the Principals to actually run their schools and be held accountable for their actions. The encouragement to build relationships with teachers and staff instead of leading by fear and intimidation is refreshing. It is my belief, the district is poised to make some significant positive impacts on the students lives they have been entrusted. I am hopeful for this direction to place students first and foremost. I urge all to embrace this transformational change and support all the educators who are entrusted with our greatest treasures in life …our children.